Some moments in life just uplift you spirit or mood atleast for a moment no matter how insignificant they might be or might sound to someone else.
I wasnt keeping well for the past one month and felt dull, upset , sick .Today i went for lunch with my colleague and from there we went to fabindia for a quick look out.
It was the same dull boring me walking around as if half dead.
In Fab India i was searching for a nice kurta.I searched
and searched,some items were too expensive, some too monotonous ,
some too boring ( the usual girls stuff) seemed as if nothing fits
in or rather I dont fit in.
In this entire process of searching for Kurta (with already low self
esteem & dullness within me) I suddenly got too upset inside,
feeling absolutely useless, my eyes for a fraction of second just
filled with tears and even more sad and just started linking it with
my life and recent happenings as if hell again bent lose.
" But as they say life is a box of chocolates you never know what you are gonna get."
Suddenly my colleague found a kurta, i tried it on. I dont know what happened when i saw myself in mirror wearing it, it elevated my mood and I suddenly felt inside as if i have finally found something.
I was really jumping like a child , actually felt I am happy again. It might not change the happenings around but it really made feel more strong, peaceful & happy inside.
Strangely sometimes we say to ourselves---" Too many walls have been build in between us too many dreams have been shattered around us but deep in my heart i know that the strength is within" ;)
Friday, November 21, 2008
Thursday, November 20, 2008
Namaste
When I was young girl of 4 years whenever I used to greet someone I used to say--
" Namsate Namaste chole khao saste" , laugh and run away. Little did and knew then and know what Namaste really means ( I am sure many of us still dont---Shame)
In India & Nepal Namaste is a way of universal greeting which is offered to everyone. When one says Namaste it means " I give you light"
Namah + te = Namaste
Where ( Namah = The holy name of light" and Te = you)
Even for that matter when you say "Hello" it is also a form of saying "Halo".. which means giving light. So next when you say Hello or Namaste , you finally know you have been saying all these years
" Namsate Namaste chole khao saste" , laugh and run away. Little did and knew then and know what Namaste really means ( I am sure many of us still dont---Shame)
In India & Nepal Namaste is a way of universal greeting which is offered to everyone. When one says Namaste it means " I give you light"
Namah + te = Namaste
Where ( Namah = The holy name of light" and Te = you)
Even for that matter when you say "Hello" it is also a form of saying "Halo".. which means giving light. So next when you say Hello or Namaste , you finally know you have been saying all these years
POWER OF MISS COMMUNICATION
An incident i read on a friend's blog about the power communications- A woman goes to a doctor for ECG etche checks and says NO THRILL. The woman interprets it as vulgar and passes the message to others too. On discussion of the report the doctor says NO THRILL, on asking what it meant, the Answer was- Fast LUB DUB sound of the Heart
My o my... Here we are again always falling into our designs & imaginations of interpretations, literally clinging on towords/sentences which mean entirely something else. The above was just a communication between a patient and a doctor.
Worst is when we experience similar situation in our personal relationship. Our next film plot has miscommunication between two people very close to each other. Dammit its the Hero and the heroine !!!
The Heroine is nagging on and on about the disinterest of the hero and our hero is forever busy in setting his career and life. On a lovely Saturday morning with a sweet discussion enters the Queen of Miscommunication, the heroine says something which sounded offending , when the purpose was to communicate something else and something different got communicated & altogther a different aspect was understood by the hero. Interestingly the hero is very annoyed with the heroine and simply refuses to talk. Btw the superstar hero is Popo and heroine is Roro.:)The film plot is not moving any further of this miscommunication.....
Well the same happens in real life too, just like the film plot. Thus three components of sender ( like heroine) and receiver ( hero) communication
1) Context/purpose under which the incident happened or discussion started.
2) Sentence framing and possible meaning on completion-- written /spoken ( which may /maynot be in sync what one was trying to communicate) :)
3) Context Understood by the receiver---( which maybe mere picking of words in the communication & as per one's imagination/ understanding )However the same maynot true and sinply not in line with the context at all or mi interpreted
Interestingly, thats the POWER OF MIS-COMMUNICATION. Defintion of miscommunication-
An attempt to explain which may not be expressed correctly ( as per language, words, gestures) , which is wrongly understood out of one's whims and fancies . Note:-To further increase its intensity the best option is to stop talking. ( i guess men are best at it)
Guess the lessons learnt :-
Sender
• Dunt talk too much ( except a roaring presentation when ure boss and super boss are around )
• Dunt debate when people are not particularly happy with you
• When being told " cut the conversation it will turn bad" .Learn to keep ure trap shut then & there.
• Pick words with care & dont be aggressive
• Remember your mis communication can affect your life
• Dont talk/ discuss about comparison ( unless at work)
• Dont nag ( esp women)
Receiver
• The topic is just a discussion not to be taken personally
• Understand slippage of words do happen ( with particularly women :))
• Be understanding everything is not a means to hit your ego ( esp men)
• If someone explains a point .give them a chance to explain ( esp after or during mis-commnucation)
• Dont ignore the person & forgive - believe me ignoring is not worth it
• Dont jump to conclusion
• Understand maybe the other person (woman) is going through a bad time. Understand atleast
The Power of miscommunication is great , ripples and after effects but i guess the PERSON/IDEA itself has to be more important than only the mis communication or pride/ ego. Well all make mistake.Its not worth cutting ties or stop communicating for a mis communication. Not at all.... There always a chance and chances ;)
Well as for now I am just waiting and saying Amen
My o my... Here we are again always falling into our designs & imaginations of interpretations, literally clinging on towords/sentences which mean entirely something else. The above was just a communication between a patient and a doctor.
Worst is when we experience similar situation in our personal relationship. Our next film plot has miscommunication between two people very close to each other. Dammit its the Hero and the heroine !!!
The Heroine is nagging on and on about the disinterest of the hero and our hero is forever busy in setting his career and life. On a lovely Saturday morning with a sweet discussion enters the Queen of Miscommunication, the heroine says something which sounded offending , when the purpose was to communicate something else and something different got communicated & altogther a different aspect was understood by the hero. Interestingly the hero is very annoyed with the heroine and simply refuses to talk. Btw the superstar hero is Popo and heroine is Roro.:)The film plot is not moving any further of this miscommunication.....
Well the same happens in real life too, just like the film plot. Thus three components of sender ( like heroine) and receiver ( hero) communication
1) Context/purpose under which the incident happened or discussion started.
2) Sentence framing and possible meaning on completion-- written /spoken ( which may /maynot be in sync what one was trying to communicate) :)
3) Context Understood by the receiver---( which maybe mere picking of words in the communication & as per one's imagination/ understanding )However the same maynot true and sinply not in line with the context at all or mi interpreted
Interestingly, thats the POWER OF MIS-COMMUNICATION. Defintion of miscommunication-
An attempt to explain which may not be expressed correctly ( as per language, words, gestures) , which is wrongly understood out of one's whims and fancies . Note:-To further increase its intensity the best option is to stop talking. ( i guess men are best at it)
Guess the lessons learnt :-
Sender
• Dunt talk too much ( except a roaring presentation when ure boss and super boss are around )
• Dunt debate when people are not particularly happy with you
• When being told " cut the conversation it will turn bad" .Learn to keep ure trap shut then & there.
• Pick words with care & dont be aggressive
• Remember your mis communication can affect your life
• Dont talk/ discuss about comparison ( unless at work)
• Dont nag ( esp women)
Receiver
• The topic is just a discussion not to be taken personally
• Understand slippage of words do happen ( with particularly women :))
• Be understanding everything is not a means to hit your ego ( esp men)
• If someone explains a point .give them a chance to explain ( esp after or during mis-commnucation)
• Dont ignore the person & forgive - believe me ignoring is not worth it
• Dont jump to conclusion
• Understand maybe the other person (woman) is going through a bad time. Understand atleast
The Power of miscommunication is great , ripples and after effects but i guess the PERSON/IDEA itself has to be more important than only the mis communication or pride/ ego. Well all make mistake.Its not worth cutting ties or stop communicating for a mis communication. Not at all.... There always a chance and chances ;)
Well as for now I am just waiting and saying Amen
Tuesday, November 18, 2008
Reflection
Every time we return home, we put the key in the lock and open the door. We don't pay attention to the key or the lock. We perform this task mechanically. That is, until one day we come home and the key does not enter the lock -- or when we try to turn the key and the lock will not open. When that happens, suddenly we pull out the key and examine it very closely. We then see that the key is bent, dull and getting worn. We notice the lock is also getting worn. Suddenly we pay attention to the key and the lock. The key and the lock were in that worn state for quite a while, but we didn't notice it until it messed up externally.
When things are moving smoothly in our life, and we feel comfortable with them, we tend to fall asleep.It creates confusion with their external nature. This confusion causes us to hesitate and reflect. This reflection is a powerful catalyst for understanding the inner, deeper nature of the life lesson . In the Vedic sense, we are not necessarily here to be happy. Happiness is a part of life, but we are here to learn the truth about who we really are. Some circumstances as such are 'strong' in delivering that lesson to us.
It is these circumstances or these confusions which create a powerful reflective nature in an indiviual and area neglected was lieing deep within them.
I read this concept in bits and pieces in some articles. So in the true sense it more of a borrowed concept, just fabricated in some different words
When things are moving smoothly in our life, and we feel comfortable with them, we tend to fall asleep.It creates confusion with their external nature. This confusion causes us to hesitate and reflect. This reflection is a powerful catalyst for understanding the inner, deeper nature of the life lesson . In the Vedic sense, we are not necessarily here to be happy. Happiness is a part of life, but we are here to learn the truth about who we really are. Some circumstances as such are 'strong' in delivering that lesson to us.
It is these circumstances or these confusions which create a powerful reflective nature in an indiviual and area neglected was lieing deep within them.
I read this concept in bits and pieces in some articles. So in the true sense it more of a borrowed concept, just fabricated in some different words
Monday, November 17, 2008
How old are you??- Part 2
Whenever I think about or come across the serial no. stating relationship status there is a certain chill which goes through my body of realizing that I am now in my late twenties ( i.e.: not 25/26 anymore)in another few years will be 30.
I usually get perturbed with the fact that it is still considered a taboo, curse when your relationship status speaks aloud “SINGLE WOMAN”. With all hoo- humm about modernism it is still considered social ill which usually indicates that you are some wanton woman who has some lascivious desires and cannot settle for one man.( Infact its the species called as males who happy to be "Single Man" who cannot settle for one woman becouse of their some non sensical theories..Kidding)
Infact in my ripe & hay days when i was 22/23 years old I have heard woman boss saying about another woman boss in her thirties “Oh look 34 now and still single must be sleeping around what a slut “. I said inside aloud “God save us, why did you educate us”.
I sometimes fail to understand why it is a social stigma to be single woman (either by choice, divorce, widow or a failed marriage). Is it really a sin to crawl out the ego dented, social pigeon holes and be who you are. I had known of a certain someone who got married at 26 and eventually left the unfulfilling marriage at 26 ½, she is now 36 happy living an independent life and recently found a cute boyfriend too. I am not too sure if it is fine to live a silent sorrow in an emotional prison. (be it a marriage or a love relationship).
Most of us believe that in this modern independent times with generation ABC & XYZ of fancy gizmos, internet, games etc. we feel the deeper self within us will still remain the same not fully understanding that somewhere there is a need to adapt to change and for heaven sake not call a woman a social responsibility to be disposed off.
Is it really not fair to take time to choose your Mr. Right?? Does it mean that she has to be considered Ms. Wrong to choose her Mr. Right & Success? Is it really something wrong in being single (in late twenties or thirties), kinda aiming for success and most importantly being a woman? Is it really wrong to be a woman??
I usually get perturbed with the fact that it is still considered a taboo, curse when your relationship status speaks aloud “SINGLE WOMAN”. With all hoo- humm about modernism it is still considered social ill which usually indicates that you are some wanton woman who has some lascivious desires and cannot settle for one man.( Infact its the species called as males who happy to be "Single Man" who cannot settle for one woman becouse of their some non sensical theories..Kidding)
Infact in my ripe & hay days when i was 22/23 years old I have heard woman boss saying about another woman boss in her thirties “Oh look 34 now and still single must be sleeping around what a slut “. I said inside aloud “God save us, why did you educate us”.
I sometimes fail to understand why it is a social stigma to be single woman (either by choice, divorce, widow or a failed marriage). Is it really a sin to crawl out the ego dented, social pigeon holes and be who you are. I had known of a certain someone who got married at 26 and eventually left the unfulfilling marriage at 26 ½, she is now 36 happy living an independent life and recently found a cute boyfriend too. I am not too sure if it is fine to live a silent sorrow in an emotional prison. (be it a marriage or a love relationship).
Most of us believe that in this modern independent times with generation ABC & XYZ of fancy gizmos, internet, games etc. we feel the deeper self within us will still remain the same not fully understanding that somewhere there is a need to adapt to change and for heaven sake not call a woman a social responsibility to be disposed off.
Is it really not fair to take time to choose your Mr. Right?? Does it mean that she has to be considered Ms. Wrong to choose her Mr. Right & Success? Is it really something wrong in being single (in late twenties or thirties), kinda aiming for success and most importantly being a woman? Is it really wrong to be a woman??
How Old are you -Part 1
How Old are you???
How old are you???
There were many a times when my cousins & friends used to call me at odd hours asking for relationship advice & fixations (wow). Finally a few got married and others got into serious relationships. Just a few days back my cousin (btw whom I had helped for 4 years in her relationship crisis & finally saw her marrying/passing with flying colors & who left her job ) called me at 4 am to have an important conversation. Guess what the Important conversation was all about (typical Punjabi style):-
Cousin (calling at 4am) - Hey How are you??
Me (in sleepy voice) - Was sleeping!!
Cousin (exicted) - Hey I have to talk something important
Me (cursing the stars) - Ye go on! Is Mr. N okay??
Cousin (happy)—Yes Yes, He loves me dearly, we frequently make love!! You know na I am happily married now.
Me (confused)—Then why are you calling me at 4 am??
Cousin (in a sad tone)—I was thinking about you today??
Me (astonished)—After all these months, you finally though about me at 4 am??
Cousin (excited tone)—Do you meet guys, some nice ones??
Me (confused, irritated)—Yes mostly jerks
Cousin (again sad tone)—Worried about you yaar, you are not settled??
Me (shocked)—I am working, I am kinda settled in my work now.
Cousin (saddest tone) - Who will take you, you are so old now, age is increasing.. worst no boyfriend also. My in-laws’ said-- Your parents must be feeling ashamed of having an old daughter at home now. Entire family is feeling sad, you are social responsibility
.Leave work just get married.
Me (super-shocked, angry at 4:30 am)—Social responsibility???
Cousin (super-saddest tone mixed with anger)—Yes ... it’s a social & personal taboo you will be never be accepted fully well in the society, not atleast not here—Babe your relationship status defines who you are. Just marry anyone it’s too much now!!
Me (Super-duper shocked and thinking) --- How old am I??
How Old am I?
ow Old am I?
How old are you???
There were many a times when my cousins & friends used to call me at odd hours asking for relationship advice & fixations (wow). Finally a few got married and others got into serious relationships. Just a few days back my cousin (btw whom I had helped for 4 years in her relationship crisis & finally saw her marrying/passing with flying colors & who left her job ) called me at 4 am to have an important conversation. Guess what the Important conversation was all about (typical Punjabi style):-
Cousin (calling at 4am) - Hey How are you??
Me (in sleepy voice) - Was sleeping!!
Cousin (exicted) - Hey I have to talk something important
Me (cursing the stars) - Ye go on! Is Mr. N okay??
Cousin (happy)—Yes Yes, He loves me dearly, we frequently make love!! You know na I am happily married now.
Me (confused)—Then why are you calling me at 4 am??
Cousin (in a sad tone)—I was thinking about you today??
Me (astonished)—After all these months, you finally though about me at 4 am??
Cousin (excited tone)—Do you meet guys, some nice ones??
Me (confused, irritated)—Yes mostly jerks
Cousin (again sad tone)—Worried about you yaar, you are not settled??
Me (shocked)—I am working, I am kinda settled in my work now.
Cousin (saddest tone) - Who will take you, you are so old now, age is increasing.. worst no boyfriend also. My in-laws’ said-- Your parents must be feeling ashamed of having an old daughter at home now. Entire family is feeling sad, you are social responsibility
.Leave work just get married.
Me (super-shocked, angry at 4:30 am)—Social responsibility???
Cousin (super-saddest tone mixed with anger)—Yes ... it’s a social & personal taboo you will be never be accepted fully well in the society, not atleast not here—Babe your relationship status defines who you are. Just marry anyone it’s too much now!!
Me (Super-duper shocked and thinking) --- How old am I??
How Old am I?
ow Old am I?
Free Will-Part 2
KARMA & FREE WILL----
Karma by defintition is what is put on us which is usually inflicted upon by the cosmos. In short--Action also.
Free Will is what I will do myself irrespective of cosmos or any other agency.
As per the philosophy of some school of thought there are things which actually inspire the karma. ( Usually Karma philosophy is followed by most faiths and doctrines which are widely followed).
As per Philosophy of typically some schools in Hinduism & Buddhism believe there are different types of Karma
• Sanchita Karma- These are the accumulated actions, which typically
means the sum total of the karmas from past lives, this being
either good or bad cannot be changed either some say even by Prayers,
mantras or tantras. (This is also more prudent if the karma is
associated with the Fixed Sign)
• Prabhadra Karma- These correspond to the actual motion or the
actions set for us. It says it is the portion of the sanchita karma
which is actually reaping the fruit now e.g.: appearance, associations,
personal associations.etc. As per the Astaka Varga Bindus calculations
it can be found out what domain the individual needs to work more
towards and what can be obtained easily ( though there are other
factors contributing too)
• Agami Karma – It means coming or arriving. This is the karma which
one needs to create now to eventually bear the fruit now or later.
Interestingly as per the philosophy Shatyamsa Chart can help in understanding the karmic underbelly also (means the downfall of a specific karma).
Again what I read in Rohinaa--
God has created the humans impowered by free will. Human can choose to follow path of light or shadow/dark. Where is choice there must be free will but then subject changes from philosophy to sociology and then there is a question how far can the person reach beyond the ground firmed by social background.
I am not sure whether all or none of it is true but I do believe it is during the course of the journey we do realise how each of the philosophy might fit perfectly in circumstances each time bearing a different outcome/fruit everytime, sometimes by applying the same philosophy.
Karma by defintition is what is put on us which is usually inflicted upon by the cosmos. In short--Action also.
Free Will is what I will do myself irrespective of cosmos or any other agency.
As per the philosophy of some school of thought there are things which actually inspire the karma. ( Usually Karma philosophy is followed by most faiths and doctrines which are widely followed).
As per Philosophy of typically some schools in Hinduism & Buddhism believe there are different types of Karma
• Sanchita Karma- These are the accumulated actions, which typically
means the sum total of the karmas from past lives, this being
either good or bad cannot be changed either some say even by Prayers,
mantras or tantras. (This is also more prudent if the karma is
associated with the Fixed Sign)
• Prabhadra Karma- These correspond to the actual motion or the
actions set for us. It says it is the portion of the sanchita karma
which is actually reaping the fruit now e.g.: appearance, associations,
personal associations.etc. As per the Astaka Varga Bindus calculations
it can be found out what domain the individual needs to work more
towards and what can be obtained easily ( though there are other
factors contributing too)
• Agami Karma – It means coming or arriving. This is the karma which
one needs to create now to eventually bear the fruit now or later.
Interestingly as per the philosophy Shatyamsa Chart can help in understanding the karmic underbelly also (means the downfall of a specific karma).
Again what I read in Rohinaa--
God has created the humans impowered by free will. Human can choose to follow path of light or shadow/dark. Where is choice there must be free will but then subject changes from philosophy to sociology and then there is a question how far can the person reach beyond the ground firmed by social background.
I am not sure whether all or none of it is true but I do believe it is during the course of the journey we do realise how each of the philosophy might fit perfectly in circumstances each time bearing a different outcome/fruit everytime, sometimes by applying the same philosophy.
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