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---There are no repeat orders in life

---Reverse attitudes work as a therapy for self and the other

---Shrimps taste good with or without the dressing on the side

--Vomitting is good for inner self

--Some dishes in life are forever unexpectedly delicious & magical

---Your toothache will increase if you knowingly chew hard & useless things.

---If you carelessly keep ironing your nylon shirt pocket at MAX, one day it bound to burn & show

---Some Signposts are just blank or scribblings , no use interpreting them . Better to move your way

---A tailor will always wear the worst clothes even when he stitches/dresses people in the best of them.

---Best of the poems sometimes dont rhyme but have a mesmerizing rhythm

--- Best things in life are free :)

Figure Out !!!

Cece- Cant decide about all this dress.
Fifi- Isnt it simple, you know what you want? Right?
Cece- I dont know, what I want!!
Fifi- Is it so hard to decide to dress?
Cece- The dress fits perfectly well, but the color is slightly light.
Fifi- Then dont leave it buy it, it fits too well.
Cece- I dont know, maybe something better is waiting. But it is what I want or need and yet I am not sure.

How easy it to enter into such conversations in our daily lives. Here we referring to the generation who cannot decide about irrelevant stuff, Question ---how can they ever decide about making decisions around important things & committments. (btw commitment w.r.t relnshp, work, responsility etc.)

Over the few years I realised & seen how easy it to dribble with the destiny or rather leave it all to the destiny without taking the pain to make a commitment or take a decision.

I guess thats why most of the people are hung up about so many things in life, work, relationships etc. constantly living a shallow life both internally & externally as if living in constant state of fear and swearing not to resolve it either.
or

Is really indecision a conscious decision not to let go off the fear & resolve it

or

Is really indecision a means to live a guilt free & easy life.

Happy Kurta Day

Some moments in life just uplift you spirit or mood atleast for a moment no matter how insignificant they might be or might sound to someone else.

I wasnt keeping well for the past one month and felt dull, upset , sick .Today i went for lunch with my colleague and from there we went to fabindia for a quick look out.
It was the same dull boring me walking around as if half dead.
In Fab India i was searching for a nice kurta.I searched
and searched,some items were too expensive, some too monotonous ,
some too boring ( the usual girls stuff) seemed as if nothing fits
in or rather I dont fit in.
In this entire process of searching for Kurta (with already low self
esteem & dullness within me) I suddenly got too upset inside,
feeling absolutely useless, my eyes for a fraction of second just
filled with tears and even more sad and just started linking it with
my life and recent happenings as if hell again bent lose.

" But as they say life is a box of chocolates you never know what you are gonna get."

Suddenly my colleague found a kurta, i tried it on. I dont know what happened when i saw myself in mirror wearing it, it elevated my mood and I suddenly felt inside as if i have finally found something.
I was really jumping like a child , actually felt I am happy again. It might not change the happenings around but it really made feel more strong, peaceful & happy inside.

Strangely sometimes we say to ourselves---" Too many walls have been build in between us too many dreams have been shattered around us but deep in my heart i know that the strength is within" ;)

Namaste

When I was young girl of 4 years whenever I used to greet someone I used to say--
" Namsate Namaste chole khao saste" , laugh and run away. Little did and knew then and know what Namaste really means ( I am sure many of us still dont---Shame)

In India & Nepal Namaste is a way of universal greeting which is offered to everyone. When one says Namaste it means " I give you light"

Namah + te = Namaste
Where ( Namah = The holy name of light" and Te = you)

Even for that matter when you say "Hello" it is also a form of saying "Halo".. which means giving light. So next when you say Hello or Namaste , you finally know you have been saying all these years

POWER OF MISS COMMUNICATION

An incident i read on a friend's blog about the power communications- A woman goes to a doctor for ECG etche checks and says NO THRILL. The woman interprets it as vulgar and passes the message to others too. On discussion of the report the doctor says NO THRILL, on asking what it meant, the Answer was- Fast LUB DUB sound of the Heart

My o my... Here we are again always falling into our designs & imaginations of interpretations, literally clinging on towords/sentences which mean entirely something else. The above was just a communication between a patient and a doctor.

Worst is when we experience similar situation in our personal relationship. Our next film plot has miscommunication between two people very close to each other. Dammit its the Hero and the heroine !!!
The Heroine is nagging on and on about the disinterest of the hero and our hero is forever busy in setting his career and life. On a lovely Saturday morning with a sweet discussion enters the Queen of Miscommunication, the heroine says something which sounded offending , when the purpose was to communicate something else and something different got communicated & altogther a different aspect was understood by the hero. Interestingly the hero is very annoyed with the heroine and simply refuses to talk. Btw the superstar hero is Popo and heroine is Roro.:)The film plot is not moving any further of this miscommunication.....

Well the same happens in real life too, just like the film plot. Thus three components of sender ( like heroine) and receiver ( hero) communication

1) Context/purpose under which the incident happened or discussion started.
2) Sentence framing and possible meaning on completion-- written /spoken ( which may /maynot be in sync what one was trying to communicate) :)
3) Context Understood by the receiver---( which maybe mere picking of words in the communication & as per one's imagination/ understanding )However the same maynot true and sinply not in line with the context at all or mi interpreted


Interestingly, thats the POWER OF MIS-COMMUNICATION. Defintion of miscommunication-
An attempt to explain which may not be expressed correctly ( as per language, words, gestures) , which is wrongly understood out of one's whims and fancies . Note:-To further increase its intensity the best option is to stop talking. ( i guess men are best at it)
Guess the lessons learnt :-

Sender

• Dunt talk too much ( except a roaring presentation when ure boss and super boss are around )
• Dunt debate when people are not particularly happy with you
• When being told " cut the conversation it will turn bad" .Learn to keep ure trap shut then & there.
• Pick words with care & dont be aggressive
• Remember your mis communication can affect your life
• Dont talk/ discuss about comparison ( unless at work)
• Dont nag ( esp women)

Receiver

• The topic is just a discussion not to be taken personally
• Understand slippage of words do happen ( with particularly women :))
• Be understanding everything is not a means to hit your ego ( esp men)
• If someone explains a point .give them a chance to explain ( esp after or during mis-commnucation)
• Dont ignore the person & forgive - believe me ignoring is not worth it
• Dont jump to conclusion
• Understand maybe the other person (woman) is going through a bad time. Understand atleast

The Power of miscommunication is great , ripples and after effects but i guess the PERSON/IDEA itself has to be more important than only the mis communication or pride/ ego. Well all make mistake.Its not worth cutting ties or stop communicating for a mis communication. Not at all.... There always a chance and chances ;)

Well as for now I am just waiting and saying Amen

Reflection

Every time we return home, we put the key in the lock and open the door. We don't pay attention to the key or the lock. We perform this task mechanically. That is, until one day we come home and the key does not enter the lock -- or when we try to turn the key and the lock will not open. When that happens, suddenly we pull out the key and examine it very closely. We then see that the key is bent, dull and getting worn. We notice the lock is also getting worn. Suddenly we pay attention to the key and the lock. The key and the lock were in that worn state for quite a while, but we didn't notice it until it messed up externally.

When things are moving smoothly in our life, and we feel comfortable with them, we tend to fall asleep.It creates confusion with their external nature. This confusion causes us to hesitate and reflect. This reflection is a powerful catalyst for understanding the inner, deeper nature of the life lesson . In the Vedic sense, we are not necessarily here to be happy. Happiness is a part of life, but we are here to learn the truth about who we really are. Some circumstances as such are 'strong' in delivering that lesson to us.

It is these circumstances or these confusions which create a powerful reflective nature in an indiviual and area neglected was lieing deep within them.

I read this concept in bits and pieces in some articles. So in the true sense it more of a borrowed concept, just fabricated in some different words

How old are you??- Part 2

Whenever I think about or come across the serial no. stating relationship status there is a certain chill which goes through my body of realizing that I am now in my late twenties ( i.e.: not 25/26 anymore)in another few years will be 30.

I usually get perturbed with the fact that it is still considered a taboo, curse when your relationship status speaks aloud “SINGLE WOMAN”. With all hoo- humm about modernism it is still considered social ill which usually indicates that you are some wanton woman who has some lascivious desires and cannot settle for one man.( Infact its the species called as males who happy to be "Single Man" who cannot settle for one woman becouse of their some non sensical theories..Kidding)

Infact in my ripe & hay days when i was 22/23 years old I have heard woman boss saying about another woman boss in her thirties “Oh look 34 now and still single must be sleeping around what a slut “. I said inside aloud “God save us, why did you educate us”.

I sometimes fail to understand why it is a social stigma to be single woman (either by choice, divorce, widow or a failed marriage). Is it really a sin to crawl out the ego dented, social pigeon holes and be who you are. I had known of a certain someone who got married at 26 and eventually left the unfulfilling marriage at 26 ½, she is now 36 happy living an independent life and recently found a cute boyfriend too. I am not too sure if it is fine to live a silent sorrow in an emotional prison. (be it a marriage or a love relationship).

Most of us believe that in this modern independent times with generation ABC & XYZ of fancy gizmos, internet, games etc. we feel the deeper self within us will still remain the same not fully understanding that somewhere there is a need to adapt to change and for heaven sake not call a woman a social responsibility to be disposed off.

Is it really not fair to take time to choose your Mr. Right?? Does it mean that she has to be considered Ms. Wrong to choose her Mr. Right & Success? Is it really something wrong in being single (in late twenties or thirties), kinda aiming for success and most importantly being a woman? Is it really wrong to be a woman??