Sptunik- Art of conversation

'Sptunik'

Cece (in his mind- Lost in his thoughts)- hello, How are u?

Fifi- ( in her thoughts, upset & sad)- I am very good, absolutely fine. How about you Cece?

Cece- ( upset over being sacked from company)- Oh, I am doing fantastic, great life.

Well this is what is usually our mode of conversation, our practiced art of conversation in our dayto day life. We as a practice tend to talk more & hardly communicate, hardly do we believe in effective listening.

I clearly recall my confession within ( not publicly) of being talktative ( though 100 % non communicative) &bad listener (though understanding ;)). Having feeling this over and over again of non communicative and faltu (aimless) talk at work & home.I decided to work late in my office to avoid "faltu talk syndrome" caught on me all these years, i felt wonderful. But again it made me more upset & sad as I dint have a single soul to converse in this ever growing population of friends & acquitance list.Finally i did meet somebody with whom I felt I could effectively converse, but i guess i failed miserably in effective listening & negative talk section.

Interestingly, it makes me feel we all are as chartacers of a story we struggle to connect but sometimes we just stop communicating with our own self.Like Sptunik we remain lonely despite the endless chit chat & talking all around.It becomes simultaneosuly mundane, disturbing where everything is a cockpit of losing of identity ,complete isolation & alienation despite Talk-people around. Sad but this is what most people feel in today's borrowed world of so called "Conversation" leading to epitome of loneliness.

The very essence of conversation is "Relationship"-- which is with the subject or person or idealogy or comapnionship or actually mutual exchange of ideas. I guess in private conversations we lose the essence of " relationship" which is again seperating discussion( confronting a certain point as right or wrong) from conversation ( to learn/connect about others their opinion,expereinces, nature etc.) i.e: building trust. I dont remember meeting anyone in a long time who considers an indiviual a fascinating human being- who is prone to making mistakes yet we in our chains of ego keep letting go the beautiful moments.

Considering the current realm its important to be a good listener- it means not hearing but effective listening, which means giving to others emotionally. Avoid interrupting ( i am saying this to myself),dont anticipatethe discussion to end so u can make ure point, not to make sharp reply else it makes the person defensive, no fighting, confrontation. Really important to understand :) & build environment of trust.Most important in towards world we make

Conversation as reason to escape from reality. Negative talks are a strict no no...:), sometimes all it takes it saying sorry and letting go off the ego. Its eventually the relationship which has to be the core & thus win than the indiviualstic ego.

Conversation is a tool of creation; it pulls us out of isolation, builds connections & strengthens our connection with the beautiful people who are a part of our lives and expands our world.